Don’t Let Your Kids Kill You by Charles Rubin
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Don't Let Your Kids Kill You by Charles Rubin
I have some mixed feelings about this particular book. I find that some of the best books on how to deal with addicts and alcoholics are written by recovering addicts themselves, perhaps those who have lived through issues with their own children. This is not one of those. The author, Charles Rubin, has gotten plenty of air time and plugs for his book from major networks and publications, yet there is an element of sensitivity lacking here that bothers me. When addiction is not depicted for what it is, a disease, but rather a moral and behavioral issue, this bothers me as well. Finally, and I'll be done, when an author refers to children (adult or not) in active addiction as "druggies" and "junkies", there denotes a definite lack of understanding and empathy for what is really going on here.
Is this book unredeemable? Not really. There is a lot of good information here about setting boundaries and taking back your own life if you have been an enabler and co-dependent. If you have a child who has been severely taking advantage of you, or even causing harm, this may be a terrific resource to get you moving in the right direction to a more healthy outlook and living situation for yourself. Despite our natural instincts, it's true that we need to take care of ourselves first or we won't be of any good use to anyone else. The concepts here are valid but I think that the suggested application of many of them in this book are a bit harsh and unrealistic.
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Don't Let Your Kids Kill You: A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children
Author: Charles Rubin
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This is a self-help recovery guide for parents in the devastating situation of realizing that they are powerless to stop their children from self-destruction through drug and/or alcohol abuse. It is dedicated to letting parents know when it is time to start saving themselves from being dragged along to destruction as well, and to providing skills that prevent it. The book relies on spiritual but practical teachings and the message is for parents to attain a healthy balance in their lives through the letting go process. While showing parents how to safely distance themselves from the child's destructive patterns, it also shows how to recognize and support healthy requests for real help, if and when they come. It includes anecdotes and quotes from parents who have had to cope with kids on drugs and/or alcohol.